08 Dec Am I being the Dummy?
Strange old things Dummies! They come in all shapes and sizes, are different colours, Some glow In the dark and some have been designed to look like a baby has a moustache! I swear they multiply as well… have you ever noticed that you have 6 one day then the next day you are down to two only to suddenly find a load more so you have more than you did when you started!
Dummy, Pacifier, Blinky, LIFE SAVER is all I can say! In fact I think that's how they should re package it sometimes as I could not have lived without one recently.
Yes I know I am probably making a rod for my own back ( again) but I am a firm believer that every child gets to a point in their life when they no longer need to use a dummy and if using one, for now, works for you then jolly well crack on with it. I mean when was the last time you ever saw a grown up walking around with a dummy in their mouth? Children naturally fall out of a habits ( some quicker than others) and some parents will take the dummy away earlier on and go “cold turkey” which is incredibly brave and takes guts ( like Lucy has just done in her training) and others, like me, will use one if and when its necessary just to get through each day
I wrote a post about sleep training and how I thought it may have scarred our daughter ( to be honest it probably didn’t and she won’t remember) but I promised myself I would not go through that pain again until I felt physically and emotionally ready. Going through a week of sleep training whilst working in London with baby by no 2 on the way slowly killed me,and the tiredness became unbearable.
Our daughter didn’t ever want to use a dummy. She instantly took a dislike to it and would actually take it out of her mouth and place it next to her with a face of what looked liked disgust. Believe me there were so many times when I wished she had used one. I was a very anxious first mum and she had a very loud cry (and she used to cry ALOT) so when I was out in public or on a packed bus and I could feel an almighty cry come on I am pretty sure a dummy would have helped soothe the situation. Nope she was adamant so we resorted to a bunny who’s ears she used to suck and fall asleep with. Of course what comes with a bunny is the fear of this being lost (lovely grandparents accidentally losing it on childcare duties, left behind in cafes, someone’s house on a play-date, thrown to the pavement from the pram!)
I remember on numerous occasions re tracing my steps to find it as I knew the night ahead would be horrendous. You can't just go to a shop at night and buy a new bunny - you can with a dummy!
Our son, from birth, really liked using a dummy (this was probably due to our daughter being over excited on his arrival and wanted to stick it in his mouth) so just went with it. Yes I read, and knew, about the possibility of him not being able to find my nipple but he did and I managed to breast feed just fine for 3 months. Perhaps, selfishly, I wanted him to like one just in case I found myself in a sticky situation with both kids kicking off. There are no books about going from one – two kids so I was prepared to try anything just to survive.
I definitely will, at some point, try and ween him off it as I am actually starting to notice a slight dependence at nightime and I would love for him to sleep from 7-7 like Lucy’s Joe has done for the past week. I have fallen into some bad habits at night time (milk and dummy) but having gone back to work 4 days a week sleep is my number one priority. Our daughter is finally sleeping through Hallelujah (will be 4 in March) and there have been, on more than a couple of occasions. Time’s when our son (who is just one) has slept through so I know he can do it. Lately he’s been full of cold or got more teeth coming through and I know a dummy makes him feel settled and secure and he goes straight back to sleep
If he sleeps then I sleep, If I sleep then I am happy and a happy mummy is what my kids, and husband need.
I am pretty sure lots of people will disagree with me but everyone is entitled to their own opinion x